HI. So if you realised, I haven’t been here for quite awhile. I would say that it’s due to studies and work, but that would frankly be a lie, because I did manage to write reviews on Goodreads, so why not here or on my personal book blog? Lemme tell you why.
I thought of leaving.
Yes, I did. I thought of leaving the book community. Not because I suddenly got tired of reviews or that I rarely read any more. I was just feeling very….. strangled. By what? Society’s opinions. Or rather, the book community’s opinions. Is it just me, or have most people in the book community turned into judgemental people? Everyone is so quick to judge people, labelling them as the ‘bad person’ in the community. I’m not personally referring to anyone. I do it too, myself. And that made me take a step back. Like, do I hate this person because I truly disagree with what she’s saying? Or do I hate her because the book community hates her?
And that’s when I knew I needed to step out for awhile. Everyone is so quick to judge, so quick to call out on someone. Let me tell you a story: A few months ago, remember the whole gun control issue? Well, I definitely said that I wanted gun control. But a friend of mine, Jessi or rather, also known as NovelHeartbeat, had a different opinion, and it shocked me. My immediate reaction was to call her out on it. And when she stuck to her opinion, I unfollowed her. AND THAT, my friend, took me by surprise. Because to be honest, I respect her, she is an amazing bookstagrammer and person. How could I have judge her as someone not ‘worthy’ of being my friend, based on one stupid opinion? And her reasonings made sense too. I lost a good person, a good friend, guys. Until now, I am legit ashamed to talk to her, because of what I had done. Here’s a personal apology to you, Jessi, if you’re reading this: You’re an amazing person and I should have agree to disagree instead of being so quick to judge and label you. I’m truly sorry. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment.
Those of you who are reading this, that was my mistake. But what about you? Have you done the same? Think of it, guys. What is usually the first thing we do when we realise someone has a different opinion? We call them out for it and pretty soon, that person would get attacked by pretty much 90 percent of the book community. Is that fair? Seriously?
I am truly HONESTLY tired of people from the book community looking for fights every single bloody damn day. Fight for diverse reads. Fight for whitewashing. YES, I agree that we need diverse reads, but TRULY, must y’all attack EVERY author who does not have a POC in their book? Yes, they should include POC but friends, battles aren’t won overnight. It takes days, months, years. Authors are trying, and those who don’t, it doesn’t make them the bad person. Have you ever thought that MAYBE just maybe an author has not written in any POC because they are not confident about the cultures, the backgrounds and they just don’t want to mess it up?
I’m not picking any fights. I’m just putting this out there that maybe everyone needs to take a step back and think: have you been an unintentional bully to someone, while trying to defend what you THINK is right?
Because that’s what y’all are doing, and I’m sorry, I do not support that. I support diverse reads, I support gun control, but that does not mean I support 817374 people attacking that ONE person for having different opinions.
(I truly don’t have any intention to hurt anyone, I promise. And I apologise in advance to my co-bloggers if this post backfires. I truly mean no harm.)