It’s Time to Get Something Off My Chest Day!

Posted May 19, 2011 by Kara in Uncategorized / 10 Comments

Most of you know that yesterday, I was publicly attacked/cyber-bullied, whatever you want to call it, for my Slaughterhouse Five review. I just wanted to address that and bring up a topic that I’m sure a lot of us book-bloggers have dealt with: Hate mail/criticism.

Last week I attacked a fellow blogger for hating on a book that I loved. I tried to be as tactful as possible, but it got ugly anyway. Maybe I should have left it alone, but the reason why I commented in the first place was because she quoted my review in her review. And it wasn’t done in a positive way. I have never quoted anyone else’s review in my reviews and I never intend to do so. I apologized for arguing with her, but it did get ugly with some of the other commenters and they called my sanity into question, and that’s kind of when I wished I could take my apology back. But regardless, I am still sorry to Vinaya for being mean to her, but I’m not sorry to any of the other commenters.

The reason why I am blogging about this now, is because yesterday I was attacked. I can now say I know how this feels and it sucks. I don’t think I was anywhere close to as bad as he was, but I still felt the need to address it.

I didn’t care for Slaughterhouse Five. It was okay, but I didn’t think it was genius and it wasn’t for me. So the f*ck what? I was called a moron, stupid, and asked to please not review any books ever again. He specifically asked me to please not review any of his work ever. Not that I ever had any intention or desire to do so. I have enough people asking for my reviews without having to add insane people who will go nuts if I review their book negatively to my list. He went so far as to compare his work to the work of Mr. Vonnegut’s. Now if this isn’t crazy, I don’t know what is.

The point I am trying to make is, this is my blog. I have the right to post any opinion I want here because my words belong to me. If you don’t like them, and I know of a few that don’t, there’s the door. You won’t be missed. I don’t expect everybody to agree with me.  That would be ridiculous. But I do expect you to respect my opinion as a fellow blogger even if it differs from yours. You can disagree with me and comment tactfully. Saying I respectfully disagree because…usually works! I have since had to block this person, and I had hoped that it would never come to that with anyone. But it’s not the first time it has happened to another blogger, and I’m sure it wasn’t the last time it will happen to me.

Having differing opinions is what makes us all unique. But that’s just the point. We all have different opinions. And not one opinion that anyone has is better or more right than anyone else’s. That’s why they are called opinions and not facts. You have a right to think I’m stupid. But you do not have a right to express that on my blog. Express it on yours.

I don’t want anyone to think that differing opinions are not welcome here. That’s not what I’m trying to say at all. But if you’ve ever listened to or went to a professional debate, you should know there’s a way to do it tactfully. I will not allow myself or any other commenters here to be personally attacked. In the future, if this happens, expect your comment to be deleted, and expect yourself to be blocked.

And once again, she may never see this, but Vinaya, I apologize. Have a great day everyone!

In addition, he has since gone on to now publicly attack me on his blog. He has not used my name, and neither will I, but since I’m such a b*tch and you don’t wanna mess with me, here’s the link: Feel free to post it anywhere and comment on it all you want. We really need to work on getting him locked up.

<3 Kara

10 responses to “It’s Time to Get Something Off My Chest Day!

  1. Bravo, Kara!

    I’m sorry to hear about being attacked – Mr. Vonnegut-like should perhaps take a moment to reflect on his own words and actions, as you have. You put it so well, this is YOUR blog. It’s YOUR review based on YOUR experiences, percepts and place in life right now. It’s not to say that in 20 years, upon re-reading it, you wouldn’t change your mind. You know?

    People get so bent out of shape over their opinions and perceptions that they think they’re absolutely right. For them, maybe they are. It’s where they need to be and perhaps, a part of what brought them to where they are (maybe this was a childhood favorite of his?). Either way, we need accept our differences and embrace them. It’s what makes us grow as human beings.

    I bet you learned a lot from this exchange and while it wasn’t fun, you’ve already grown.

    Dr. Suess said it best: “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

    That being said, you are STILL on my docket to beta read. I trust your instincts. 😉

  2. Thanks Carissa. Lovely comment as usual. I was hoping I’d still be beta-reading your work. I’ve only been looking forward to it for weeks and working on clearing my schedule! 🙂

  3. Thank goodness we all have different opinions or life would be pretty boring! I’ve seen writers attack reviewers before, and it’s not pretty. I would never, ever do that. I realize that there ARE people who will not like my book. That doesn’t make them stupid…it just may not be for them.


  4. I cannot believe he let a difference of opinion get to him that badly. Really? It’s like you called his grandmother ugly or something. Sheesh. Unless it’s a book he wrote, he shouldn’t have that much emotion built into it. I mean, I love the BeeGees, but I’m not gonna say everyone has to love them like I do. Heck, I don’t even expect most folks to like them these days.

    My mother, a 26 yr. English teacher, winner of many teaching awards, and a text book contributor, says of classic books, “They’re just books. Either you like them or you don’t.” She does, however, recommend reading them, just so you know what some folks like rambling on about. *G* You’ve read it. Now you know, it ain’t much.

  5. WOW, first of all that is how it works for a writer. When you put your work out there it is out there for anyone to read and judge. Most writers don’t need delusioned champions bullying their readers for them.

    I just wonder if this gent–and I use the term losely flies off the handle for someone else, how does he handle his own bad reviews? Not everyone is going to like every book ever written. SIGH I dislike some people.

  6. Well I can confirm for you that he does NOT handle criticism of his work well. Since his blog post today, I have been doing a little bit of research and it turns out he is every bit as kooky as we thought.

  7. Kara, it sucks that you were attacked and bullied. I think the best thing you can do is to ignore this raving idiot. He seems to crave attention. Don’t give it to him. You are a stand-up broad in my book. You think for yourself and have no fear of telling the world what you think, but you do it in a respectful way. I love that about you.

    Keep your chin up and don’t waste another second thinking about him.


  8. Rule #1 in my personal rules as a writer, never comment on a review of your own book good or bad. Crazy is common among writers, myself not excluded. I would like to think any criticism would be a challenge for me to look at closer in my next book. Don’t let the bad crazies get you down.

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