Most of you know that yesterday, I was publicly attacked/cyber-bullied, whatever you want to call it, for my Slaughterhouse Five review. I just wanted to address that and bring up a topic that I’m sure a lot of us book-bloggers have dealt with: Hate mail/criticism.
Last week I attacked a fellow blogger for hating on a book that I loved. I tried to be as tactful as possible, but it got ugly anyway. Maybe I should have left it alone, but the reason why I commented in the first place was because she quoted my review in her review. And it wasn’t done in a positive way. I have never quoted anyone else’s review in my reviews and I never intend to do so. I apologized for arguing with her, but it did get ugly with some of the other commenters and they called my sanity into question, and that’s kind of when I wished I could take my apology back. But regardless, I am still sorry to Vinaya for being mean to her, but I’m not sorry to any of the other commenters.
The reason why I am blogging about this now, is because yesterday I was attacked. I can now say I know how this feels and it sucks. I don’t think I was anywhere close to as bad as he was, but I still felt the need to address it.
I didn’t care for Slaughterhouse Five. It was okay, but I didn’t think it was genius and it wasn’t for me. So the f*ck what? I was called a moron, stupid, and asked to please not review any books ever again. He specifically asked me to please not review any of his work ever. Not that I ever had any intention or desire to do so. I have enough people asking for my reviews without having to add insane people who will go nuts if I review their book negatively to my list. He went so far as to compare his work to the work of Mr. Vonnegut’s. Now if this isn’t crazy, I don’t know what is.
The point I am trying to make is, this is my blog. I have the right to post any opinion I want here because my words belong to me. If you don’t like them, and I know of a few that don’t, there’s the door. You won’t be missed. I don’t expect everybody to agree with me. That would be ridiculous. But I do expect you to respect my opinion as a fellow blogger even if it differs from yours. You can disagree with me and comment tactfully. Saying I respectfully disagree because…usually works! I have since had to block this person, and I had hoped that it would never come to that with anyone. But it’s not the first time it has happened to another blogger, and I’m sure it wasn’t the last time it will happen to me.
Having differing opinions is what makes us all unique. But that’s just the point. We all have different opinions. And not one opinion that anyone has is better or more right than anyone else’s. That’s why they are called opinions and not facts. You have a right to think I’m stupid. But you do not have a right to express that on my blog. Express it on yours.
I don’t want anyone to think that differing opinions are not welcome here. That’s not what I’m trying to say at all. But if you’ve ever listened to or went to a professional debate, you should know there’s a way to do it tactfully. I will not allow myself or any other commenters here to be personally attacked. In the future, if this happens, expect your comment to be deleted, and expect yourself to be blocked.
And once again, she may never see this, but Vinaya, I apologize. Have a great day everyone!
In addition, he has since gone on to now publicly attack me on his blog. He has not used my name, and neither will I, but since I’m such a b*tch and you don’t wanna mess with me, here’s the link: http://roguemutt.wordpress.com/2011/05/19/thursday-rant-worst-book-reviewer-ever/ Feel free to post it anywhere and comment on it all you want. We really need to work on getting him locked up.